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Two different world ;

"When your parents got married where were you, Nabilah?"
The 4 year old me without hesitation answered
"I was in front of the pelamin, watching. Didn't you notice I was there?".

Of course my answer did not make any sense. The adults love asking me that question over and over again. Younger me noticed that they love my quirky responses so I change the answer every now and then. Sometimes I would say I was handing the bunga telur, on some days I would say I was the flowergirl. The adults (mostly my mom's colleagues) would compliment me saying I'm smart. The younger me basked in compliments and doesn't even try hiding it.
I suck at a lot of things, especially writing intros so I hope that was interesting enough for you to not close this tab 😂.

I recently read Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. I noticed that a lot of issues discussed in the book rings true in my parents' situation. Women and men are different anatomically and an equally complex difference is their emotional needs.

When men face any problem, they tend to be quiet and more reserved about it but at the same time they are figuring out solutions. Women on the other side, loves talking about what's bothering them just to vent out their frustration. Because its engraved in men's DNA to fix things, they become "Mr.Fix-it-all" and offers solution to women's problems when all she ever wants is for him to listen.

Men are generally goal-oriented while women are relationship oriented. I remember this one time when my parents send me off to Kuantan and we couldn't find our way to IIUM Kuantan. My mom suggested we stop and ask directions from the locals. My dad being the proud man he is, refused to do so. He insisted to find it on his own. To make matters worse, they were both hangry as it was the month of Ramadhan. They bickered at each other. I couldn't understand why is it so hard for men to just stop and ask for directions. I found my answer in this book.

Men tend to fix things on their own so when women offer help, he feel offended and he thinks she doesn't trust him. On woman's side, she feel that offering advice is a way of showing love and care.

I haven't finish reading the book but those two are the most prominent and I could instantly relate it with my parents. Two different worlds uniting under the same roof surely needs a lot of hardwork. 19th August 2017 marks the 23 years of marriage between my parents. In a world where we can't go by a day without reading news about divorcement, anniversary gives me hope. I pray that God prolongs their life together, to be in love through thick and thin, and grant them heaven in the hereafter. Happy anniversary mummy and daddy 💕


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